Mummy...

I read LB's post today and I just couldn't help crying my eyes out. I know I'm usually teary when I read some of her posts but this time I just couldn't help breaking down. I'm at work but the tears flowed very freely. I just couldn't hold back.

I miss my mummy.... I read Bukky's post sometimes because it just make me remember mine. How I tried taking care of her while she was ill. I think seeing Bukky's mum's feet and her talking about how she gave her a polish change and sometimes a pedicure, just really broke me cos those were some of the last things I did for my mum before she passed. I did a french pedicure for her and she still has those nail polish on her toe nails right to the grave.

There's nothing, absolutely nothing like having a mum who really cares about you. Who not only cares about you but cares about EVERY individual that came into her life. Bukky I feel you a lot when you talked about your mum just loving everyone... that was my mum. She cared for people so much most times I just didn't understand it.

I remember while she was in the hospital just before she passed on, in all her pain and discomfort, she was still talking about someone she needed to give some money to because she was really feeling her. My mum had asked her what she wanted to do and the person said she wasnted to start some business. She started talking about how she wants to go home quickly so she can get some money for the person to start her business. I was almost upset at her but I just looked at my mum in amazement.
I mean you don't want to imagine how much we were paying for my mum's hospital bill and treatment, you don't even want to think about it and yet in all that she was still thinking of helping someone else who had not even once visited her in the hospital all through her stay there.

I remember at the church during the funeral some of her friends came to eulogise and one of them said...
" Tee is so loving, caring and she's so giving... She'll go whatever extra mile she can to help you, to give to you. If she meets you and you're in need of one of her eyes she'll give it to you, If she met another person who really needed an eye, I know Tee can give out the very last one she has. That's how compassionate tee was, how giving she was. She never wanted to see anyone suffer or in need, she would do whatever is within her power to help out... That's just Who she is"

I can never ever forget my mum, not just because she's my mum, but also because of the way she's impacted my life.

My mum was there for us. I mean she was THERE!!!

I remember growing up my mum would always tell us... "If there's ANYTHING, I mean ANYTHING you ever want, no matter how big or small, make sure you tell me. Don't ever go looking for anything from an outsider, always come to me. If I can't get it for you immediately, you know I'll do my best to get it for you eventually. Don't ever go begging for something outside okay??" and she always got us things we wanted. I remeber when loafers just became the fashion in town... ah! my mum watches out for those kind of things o! She took me out one day and said lets go and get your own loafers too and that's all we went shopping for that day... a pair of loafers for moi :-). She liked it when we dressed up well. She wasn't overly vain but if something nice was in season, we sure would be wearing it too lol... that's my mum for you.

She took such great care of us and there's no denying that fact. She made sure we were content.

There was no working day growing up as kids we were not guaranteed Mr Biggs when my mum got back from work. She always stopped to buy snackes for us when returning home from work.

My mum was that kind of mum everyone in your school just knew. She was the one hugging and kissing all your friends and even on lookers who didn't get visited on visiting day, just to make them feel wanted and loved, she jus had a great spirit.

She was the mum everyone referred to as Mummy. People confided in my mum much more than they did their's, it was amazing.
One thing with her though was as sweat as she was, she didn't take nonsense. She'll tell you when you do something wrong, she'll tell you when she thinks you're over stepping your boundaries, she never keeps a grudge so once she tells you off that's the end of it. She also can't fight so if she knows you're reacting to something she said or did, she'll be quick to come joke about it, not necessarily tell you sorry especially if she knows what she's telling you is true, she'll just be like... "huh! abi you're getting upset cos of what I said?? Ooto oro o ni kon ma sohun(Meaning the truth will always be told)" and then she'll give you a really warm hug and start gisting with you again.

My mum is also very perceptive. She catches everything, notices everything. She can also tell you about someone just spending a few minutes with them. Sometimes I ask my mum what she thinks about a particular guy that comes to my house and she'll tell you. I hate most times when she's right about a guy. Also sometimes she'll just come and say..."I don't like that your friend" and I'm looking at her funny now like... gosh! she's come again but most times she's right. Most times though she'll just tell you to be careful and watchful.

My mum loves gist... ah! she wants to know who's dating who and she'll come lie on the bed with me and my sisters or even me and my friends in the room when they spend the night and just gist away like a young girl.

I miss my mum o! So many things I'd have loved to share with her, some I know she'll yab me about, but I know even in that she'll still talk to me truthfully and out of love.

I miss my mum... she'd have called me tire... by now asking me when I'm going to be married.. telling me "ehn! Moment oo mafi oko se boyfriend ( meaning Moment better don't go pass off your husband as a boyfriend).

She's so warm so kind, so gentle, so determined. She's also very hard working... my mum works but she can also very business minded, she can sell you if you let her lol....

I said I wasn't going to blog about my mummy, not now at least but I was provoked to share a little bit of my mum today. I just can't help loving her in her absence right now.

I've never faced the fact that my mum isn't coming back. To me it's just like she's on some vacation and will be back someday so I never refer to her as "dead", I just always say she "passed". I guess the word "dead" just puts a finality or maybe its a reality to the fact that she's never going to come back. That, I'm not sure I'm ready to accept. I know she's alive with the Lord and most times I can almost imgaine that I see her looking at us. I dream about her sometimes and I'm the happiest girl on earth in the morning of those days.

I love my mum so much, I can't even imagine her not being at my wedding.... Gosh!!! I just can't men... I honestly can't.

I think about my hubby's mum sometimes, not that I know the hubby or his mum sef lol.... but I just always pray that God will bring someone who will be a mum to me and not a mother-in-law. I want someone who wont constantly remind me of the fact that my mum isn't there. I pray about it all the time cos it's so important to me. I know the extent my mum goes for other people and what she does for them. Even people that don't like her o! Can you imagine people not liking my mum??? You can guess why though.... it's just plain jealousy but she loves them and gives to them still. A lot of people I think always thought my mum was some mega millionaire cos of the way she gives and carries herself, she likes to dress up and look good and young too.
Hm... you should see my mum in Jeans or shorts, hm... she's a real mama o ni gba! she's got cool legs and she knows it lol........ so she likes to show off when she can.

She's just a lovely women, Great spirit, great heart, great personality. Ever friendly, always smiling, always kind and she can be strict too... ah!! my mum can be strict!

Anyway, not that I've told half of who my mum is but I think I've told enough for today. You can imagine if I actually planned to write about my mum, I can't imagine how long that'll be.

Long and short of it all is that I MISS MY MUM Terribly!