Devil Na Liar!!!

You wont believe it... I know the devil was listening when I was putting up my last post! because by Monday like this, I don sick o!! serious matter. Before I knew it na hospital, before I knew it doctors, nurses everywhere! hm....

Thank God for his mercies sha. I'm well now. The song that keeps coming to my mind since I've been ill has been "devil na liar number ahhh!! devil na liar ehn! devil na perfect liar o! ahhh!!! devil na liar ehn!!" (I think that was something from one of Fela's old songs, I don't know how it just kept playing in my mind cos I'm not much of a Fela fan). Anyway.... as I was saying.... Yes o, he's a real liar in my life. Just when I was saying I'm overcoming, living life at the top etc... then he struck but well, I'm back again and I still maintain my stand about this week.

I still maintain that that I'm winning in everything and in everyway this week ( I already started anyway by winning sickness). I still maintain that I'm LIVING!! in this week.

So peeps, my invitation still stands o!! Come join me in Living Life this week. I believe that you guys have been living life at the fullest and on Tops, so come tell me what's been happening to you and together we can shame this devil...

Looking forward to reading from you guys.

Thank you guys :-)

Awwwww....... I'm so touched by all the comments left on my last post to encourage me. Thanks so much to everyone that dropped by and left a "pick me up" comment for me. I really appreciate everything you guys said and I did make use of some of the suggestions :-).

We can be down, but we don't stay DOWN so.............................

Guess what?????

Moments is BACK!!!!! and she's back on TOP!!!

It's a new week from today. I'm looking forward to starting this great working week tomorow. I'm looking forward to lloving every moment this week brings, I'm looking forward to having fun, I'm looking forward to winning in everything and in everyway,,,,,,,,, I'm looing forward to LIVING!!

Come on peeps, come join me in Living Life this week.

Be blessed and catch you tomorrow :-)

Feeling Low!!

Moment's isn't just in the best of moods today!!!

I'm not sure why, but I just don't feel very happy generally today. Really low spirit which is very unusual.

I'm always the bubbly one, always the one trying to find out how everyone is doing, lending both ears when someone wants to talk, trying to cheer them up when they feel low or when they just need someone to lift their spirits.

But today??? I'm in no mood for any of that. I'm even in no mood to cheer myself up. I just want to finish up with work today and just go to my house and lie in my bed or maybe even sleep on the floor sef, maybe eat something or not bother eating(not been eating well lately anyway), maybe cry a little (sometimes I do that when I'm not feeling too good), and maybe finally pray, just talk to God at random( cos that's the only place I really find comfort). At least I know he listens and he truly cares...

It's so funny how people come to you with all their own issues and probs, how you look out for others, try listening to them and even helping them which I absolutely love doing, so don't get me wrong. But most times people just forget to ask you how YOU are doing... or truly care enough when they eventually ask you.

Has anyone ever been there??? they just kind of assume you're always okay, will always be ready to listen, ready to help, ready to share, ready for them...

Funny thing is, I'm not writing this cos I want anyone to ask how I'm feeling or anything. Yeah, I don't feel my best today and I just thought to write that on my blog, but you know how sometimes you just start to write and things just kind of show up on your mind as you write.... well I guess that's what happened.

Anyway, I got to go now. Hopefully, I'll be back sometime later when I'm back to myself.

Take care and have a swell day.

See me see wahala o!!

Hm.... I don't even understand where to start this story o! I had said I wasn't even going to blog today but this matter is really vexing me this morning and I need to vent someplace.

Can you imagine this "Xman"??? Xman is an ex obviously from his name. I'm not sure why in recent times he can't seem to get the fact that he’s an ex into his thick skull. You can’t eat your cake and have it now????

Xman and I dated for quite sometime and we were really close, extremely close for that matter ( I have to blog about that relationship one of these days so you get the full gist).

But meanwhile Xman has been taking some prof. exams and been really worried he might fail his last paper and as a good friend now, I try encouraging him every now and then.

Anyway, that's how a certain someone called me this morning that results were out and asked about Xman's surname, I told her and next thing she said he passed. Excited me sent a text to Xman asking if he's checked his result and that he should check and give me the good news. Only for me to get a text at work that he saw it on Monday and passed, that I, Moment should call him. Abeg, call him that what exactly??? that while he was always worried and disturbing my sleep wanting to talk and have someone encourage him, it was okay for him to call me and when the result came out I had to ask only to find out I was even 2days late, or what exactly am I supposed to call about?? this one na real pekelepekele.... I didn't waste time communicating my thoughts in a return text to him and his response??? Hmm... you don’t want to read it o! …… “well whatever you want to think is really up to you”. Can you beat that my people??? He continues with….. “you didn’t remember what you said the last time I called you and how you were being so sarcastic “ ….blah blah blah.... At least now I think I know where the real problem is.

This is the real story now...

See, one Saturday Xman came to my house and we were gisting along with another friend staying at my place at the time, he then asked when he was leaving if he could come pick us up for church the following day and I said okay. Next morning my friend decided she was too tired to go and so Xman and I went to church o! Service was unusually long that day and my friend text me that she had to leave for her own house and she'll call me. That's how I decided to follow Xman to go buy some gifts for his friend's baby and do some shopping myself. On our way home he decided to drop his own stuff first, change, pick a few things cos he'll be heading to his friends house after dropping me off. He also emphasized the fact that mo ti bu iyepe ile e dani( meaning I had decided not to visit him again). The truth is, I just decided long ago I wont visit him at home jare. I just don't want any unnecessary wahala se you get.

To cut the long story short, since I wasn't in a hurry to get home, I followed him. Did I have much of a choice?? Not really I was in his car. We got in, he was being really nice and offered to make me lunch and yours truly was almost fainting with hunger really. So I made myself comfortable and waited for lunch to be ready. It was a delicious meal of rice and dodo :-)).
After the meal (the food never even reach down sef) we were just gisting and watching TV while he was sha going in and out getting himself ready I guess. He then came sitting beside me and talking and watching TV only for him to reach for my waist o! Ye!!! You shoulda seen the look on my face, he started laughing and asking why I was looking like that, I simply told him I didn't understand what the holding of the waist was for. Is that some thank you for coming to my house or thanks for enjoying the meal, or is that supposed to be what I pay for having lunch at his place??? anyways, I asked him to get himself together and just leave me alone.... my peeps na lie o! He no gree o!! I stood up he stood with me still holding me, now I was really thinking in my mind this guy's finally gone CRAZY!!! And then the drama began, I'm telling you real struggle o!! Ofcouse he's taller and stronger than me now so it became real fight.

He kept saying why now Moments, why can't I hold you, why can't you just kiss me for once... Egbami ooo!!! (Someone save me please) that was what was ringing in my head, but what came out of my mouth was "WHY??? Xman, why should I let you hold, touch or kiss me?? Why?? You don't remember you have a girlfriend again?? you told me yourself about her and how you want to marry this year so what's this all about?? we're supposed to be friends so why are you trying to ruin that now??" The bobo no gree me o!! hm... he was telling me that sebi he's the one that told me he had gf and if he says he doesn't have again nko?? what kind of line is that in 2007?? all this talk was in between serous struggling oh! I mean I was hurting, my skin was going red and purple at the same time. I just kept thinking "When did Xman become so vicious?? I never knew him like this..." anyway, he kept trying to reach me to kiss me but I wouldn't let him, you see how tough a fight like that must have been?? He couldn't believe it. Eventually sha, he did let me go, but he kept saying "so Moments you wont give me even one kiss??" I just looked at him, (this was a bad look now) asked him in what account I'm supposed to write that in and straightened myself and walked right out into the cold to wait outside.... don't worry I wasn't crazy enough to start walking away in that cold. He came outside, opened the car and I stepped in and he drove me home. Didn’t even bother trying to invite himself in anyway.

Please what conversation are we supposed to be having after that incident?? What crazy conversation is there to have?? I just kept to myself and he did try calling a few times but I just felt there was really nothing to say. Oro don talk himself abi??(meaning his actions already spoke for him). The funny thing is I don't get angry for long, I already forgave him and I had moved on from there. I was just more than a little surprised that he'll keep me struggling with him for that long, long enough to make my skin hurt me really badly and it was turning red and not until I made him see that did he leave me alone can you imagine that?? and ooops!! I forgot to mention that he then started saying is it cos of my boyfriend that I wasn't going to let him kiss me, "Isn't that a good enough reason not to kiss you" I shot back at him.

He then calls me last week; I was really ill last week o! and started asking why I haven't been in touch, why I didn't even think I should give him a call to say hi, why I didn't pick his call, why I wont even say hi when I'm online on im, all the why this & why that. What was I supposed to say?? I was ill, he was irritating me with all his ranting and I think I must have really said something nasty to him, can't even remember what I said o! can you imagine, maybe cos that night I was trying to get some sleep and someone was just ranting in my ears.

Forgetting all that even happened o! I carried myself to go and be asking for exam result, na me carry myself go receive insult on top of injury now... I blame Xman?? No I don't, I blame myself...

So in short the root of all this evil now is because I didn’t allow Xman hold or kiss me. I’m mega glad I didn’t anyways. What’s all that for?? Don’t get me wrong o! I don’t hate or despise him, he’s a really nice person, but it’s over mate…. It’s been over now for about 3yrs so abeg really in what account am I supposed to be writing kissing ex in?? I’m not an all perfect somebody o! I mean I can kiss him and we’ll just pretend it never happened or I just do it for the simple sake of feeding the flesh, but I wont and that’s just my decision which I think should be respected. I mean you have a gf for heaven’s sake and where does that leave me?? Forgetting all that good girl matter sef, abeg, I don’t want to girl from nowhere kissing and cuddling my baby when I’m not there o!!

Wo! He’s in trouble; I know he’ll still call me back before the day runs out. Se trouble lie down monkey go wake am.

I’ll keep you posted on whatever happens after this. Well and if nothing happens?? I’ll still keep you posted. At least I feel better now.

*A Soulful Relationship*

Did I ever mention that I'm a love/relationship freak??? I just love the atmosphere of LOVE and good relationship. Haven't had that many but the ones I've had, i'm not lying o! they definitely can't erase me from their memory lolll... They were not perfect but they were soulful, they were real and most importantly, they were fun... Anyways, that's gist for another day. Will be back to blog about them. Watch Out!!!


So here's a little summin-summin for you all that are like me :-), that love to be "in love", that love to "love and be loved", that love to seize the moments and let the moments seize you lol, guess what?? there's nofing wrong with that atall...



*A Soulful Relationship*


If you're not married yet, share this with a friend. If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples.. and reflect on it.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."

Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important.

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.

If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individuals who have decided to share a life together.

Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best of each other?Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?

You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.

Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

What keeps a relationship strong?

Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on their voicemail or send a nice email. Sharing common goals and interests.

Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless. Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.

"Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think." The grass withers, the flowers fades, but the word of God stands forever. Isaiah 40:8 Shall we make a new rule of life from tonight.

Always to try to be a little kinder than is necessary. The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the i.

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

Reverend Ronald McFadden.

Catch y'all my good fellas. Let me go and get some more work done :-)

Have yourself a wonderful day.

Moments finally landed in Blogville...

I've waited so long to start this blog. I have stalked other people's blogs daily and have even introduced friends to reading other people's blogs. Finally this is mine. I'm not sure where I got the inspiration to do it today from but I did it and I'm glad I did.

There's so much I've been wanting to write, so much I've been waiting to let out of my mind and sometimes I've even had to write to myself or write on word and just save it up. Now I have a blog, Now I got me my very own blog, you wanna try me lolol.... I guess I'm excited and the likes of Vera, TemmyTayo, Calabar Gal, TMinx,Babaalaye, Tuneday, former Frozen Pink who's now started up her new blog, Zaiprincesa, Tunde Odeyemi, Wildcat(Delilah 3) etc just to mention a few can now visit my own blog and become real blog friends.

I read and follow up on you guy's blogs everyday and it's almost become an addiction.

Boss would have thought I was doing something very productive all morning, not knowing all I've really done today was go from one favourite blog to the other catching up on what's goan. Each time she came around, I just switch to a report I started working on this morning which I just know I'm never going to finish till tomorrow lol... then suddenly I had this nagging urge to start my own blog, wanting to just put my thoughts, my joys, excitements, frustrations , generally putting everything down in black and white (afterall no one really knows who I am... this is blogville) and before I knew it I was on the blogger site, creating my own blog and voila!! this is Moi.....

So this is me welcoming myself & I to blogville, I'm so excited to be here. It's indeed an achievement for me today :-)

I hope to post as often as I can.

I think I can now leave work for school... Naughty me, yes I know :-)